The Holiday season is quickly approaching. For many, this is a season of joy and great expectations. Will he pop the marital question? 
Am I getting that new car? How will I ever fit all those people in my house?
And yet, for others it is the opposite end of the emotional spectrum. There is a pang of loneliness for those close to us who may have passed on. Together with those who are grieving over the relationship that did not work out as planned. There is no doubt that the ache is real. There is a back and forth-ness of this ordeal.
Some days you may find yourself at peace because you had the experience of that relationship and other days there is anger because they are no longer there. How could they depart from this life without your permission? Why didn’t you see that he/she was not the one before you fell in love with them?
The soul echoes its needs through your emotions. Perhaps, you have heard the quote by Mahatma Ghandi, “your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, your actions become your habits, your habits become your values, and your values become your destiny.” It all starts with a thought, the thought if left unchecked, or placed in a better perspective can be disastrous.
Here’s the question: How do you fix your thoughts? This is a fix as in repair. Do you repair the holes by filling them?
A short while ago, I attempted to hang a picture on my wall. Not being the handy woman, I had holes in the wall where I thought the nail should go only to have it hang crooked. So, through trial and error I finally placed the nail in the right spot. However there were several holes leaving evidence of my carpentry inexperience. As a little girl, I remember my daddy placing white soap in holes and then painting over them. (Don’t tell the landlord) I followed his example, and voila! The hole was repaired.
Now, I am not abdicating that you fill your head with soap. Although it would make for a great circus act, it would be difficult, at best. Fill the hole of loneliness from the passing of your loved one with thoughts of times of laughter and joy. The forgone relationship? Reflect on the new knowledge that was gained. What did you learn not to do or perhaps do better?
Why not fill your thoughts with the joy of knowing God. He can turn sorrow into joy. And, you will experience a peace like never before!
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